Dear UG Ladies - Advice for the Romantically Hopeless

This thread makes me depressed :

I have a question. Yesterday me and two other guys snuck out a girl they know pretty well and we went to our schools football field to hang out. They pretty much ended up having sex through their clothes on the field, and I of course being the wuss in the group kinda got the knee and it was very disheartening x].

Tell me what I was supposed to do in that situation! I don't know her, I don't rape girls, I know they were just playing and my friends said I shoulda jumped in there more often (she did seem to be cool with it), but eh it's just not my thing to have random pseudo-orgies on the field :.

I feel bad because of confidence. I saw lots of opportunities but I didn't take them, and that translates into non-orgy related activities as well. Any advice?

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I'll give this a shot.

I like this girl, a lot. We've been friends for almost a year, and we're each one of the other's best friends. But, another guy in our circle of best friends (man that sounds gay) (that would be a guy who's a best friend to both of us btw) has been friends with her since 6th grade, and he likes her a lot too. Not only am I afraid of ruining my relationship with her if she rejects me, but I also don't want to ruin my friendship with the other guy. Not to mention I'm dead scared of rejection.

What the hell do I do?

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Yeah, i've been told that countless times... But for some ungodly reason, i would still die to let her breathe for another 10 minutes.

Also, Z Cup Boy, as for picking up girls... Just go to book stores or something and strike up a flirtatious/amusing conversation and see where it goes.

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p o e wrote on Jun 23rd, 2009 at 11:52pm : How does a girl go, within a month and a half, from laying under you, screaming that she loves you, to dating/fucking another guy a week after she leaves you, to IMing you to tell you that she hates you?

Awww! That's horrible...shes a no good slut, and not good enough for you.

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I'm gay can you ladies help me with other ladies?

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How does a girl go, within a month and a half, from laying under you, screaming that she loves you, to dating/fucking another guy a week after she leaves you, to IMing you to tell you that she hates you?

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6_Feet_Below wrote on Aug 20th, 2008 at 9:16pm : joined group for the hell of it. i live in stonington connecticut aka wigger town. there are about 2 girls in the state that dont go for douche bag stoner fake pimp gangster posers. ya and if those 2 girls exist, they probly dont like me anyway.... *walks away with realization of lower self esteem*

Oh my god james. awwww
by the way... he found a girlfriend.
me!

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Thanks for what? I just helped the guy out.

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thanks poe

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Sure thing... M-16 is in my top 5 thrash albums. :3

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Thanks so much--& thats a good choice in music I'll try it

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Chiodosrules_54 wrote on Apr 1st, 2009 at 10:21pm : Hi, me again good news -- kinda weird actually-- the girl that i like just broke up with her boyfriend a few days ago...so now its just getting up the courage ... Asking her out could, essentially solve my whole dilemma anyway... that's a problem though too...i don't have the guts to do it...

Liten to music that makes you happy, and confident on the way to school, or wherever you're most likely to see her, and just fly by the seat of your pants brother.

Music wise, may i suggest some thrash metal with a very good feel... Like Sodom's "M-16"

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Haustinj wrote on Mar 22nd, 2009 at 7:38pm : I Think I've Seriously Fallen For This One Girl, But She Happens To Be My Best Friend's Girlfriend. I Figured When They First Started Dating That The Feelings I Had For Her Would Perish, But 2 Years Later, They Are Still In Full Swing. She's Amazing: Great Personality. Pretty, Smart...But I Would Never Do Anything To Ruin My Friendship With My Friend. It Always Seems Like Every Girl I Get Strong Feelings For Is Taken And It Just Destroys Me Emotionally. What Would You Recommend?

I was in this exact postition for a long time, you basically get over it eventually... Which sounds cold, and unhelpful, but just remember that it'll get better.

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Hi, me again
good news -- kinda weird actually--
the girl that i like just broke up with her boyfriend a few days ago...so now its just getting up the courage ...
Asking her out could, essentially solve my whole dilemma anyway...
that's a problem though too...i don't have the guts to do it...

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ok there's this problem...
i like this one girl, excpt i haven't had the courage to ask her out. Plus she's been going out with like the same guy for almost a year---i heard that she liked me like 6 months ago (which makes no sense bcuz she was still in a relationship @ that time so i couldn't really ask her out)
now there's this other girl that i don't like (as a girlfriend) and she's about ready to ask me out (i can tell--she almost did once, but i kinda changed the subject)
what do i do about the one that i don't have the courage to ask out and what do i do about the one that i don't like like that?

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I Think I've Seriously Fallen For This One Girl, But She Happens To Be My Best Friend's Girlfriend. I Figured When They First Started Dating That The Feelings I Had For Her Would Perish, But 2 Years Later, They Are Still In Full Swing.

She's Amazing: Great Personality. Pretty, Smart...But I Would Never Do Anything To Ruin My Friendship With My Friend.

It Always Seems Like Every Girl I Get Strong Feelings For Is Taken And It Just Destroys Me Emotionally.

What Would You Recommend?

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p o e wrote on Mar 12th, 2009 at 5:40pm : Yeah, they think smoking a bit of dope is nasty, and makes me, "Turn into somebody they don't know." I'm trying to balance out how much control is placed in who's hands in the relationship, but i'm still kind of feeling like i work really hard to keep her from being overly jealous, upset, or angry... Which is kind of lame, since she's usually pretty easy going.

pot is cool every once in a while. but everyone acts differently and i can see why some come to that conclusion... but their opinion is biased toward one horrible ex.

ah, the parents. dillon i feel like we've had this discussion but... its all about balance. its hard to find someone with whom you both give to and receive from. theres always the stories about someone working harder than the other, which usually results in a split.

you just have to find the right person and it will work. but then THAT is a whole nother story involving confidence, shyness, being awkward, the "friend zone", etc

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Yeah, they think smoking a bit of dope is nasty, and makes me, "Turn into somebody they don't know."

I'm trying to balance out how much control is placed in who's hands in the relationship, but i'm still kind of feeling like i work really hard to keep her from being overly jealous, upset, or angry... Which is kind of lame, since she's usually pretty easy going.

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LazyLatinoRocke wrote on Jan 30th, 2009 at 5:16pm : Why do girls do this? Whenever I ask a girl out, if she says no then she starts acting like my best friend (friend zone). She acts as if we were best friends for years so why do they do this?

It's called taking advantage of the situation. They know you like them, so you'll make an extra effort out of everything for them. They see it as a chance to get a lot of free attention.

Some may also do it to avoid the 'awkwardness' that should follow, but that is just putting gasoline to the fire.

Take your pick.

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p o e wrote on Mar 5th, 2009 at 9:22am : Ahhh, yeah. Update on my last post. *stuffz* Am I weird?

Nothing wrong in being weird. Although a lot of guys probably feels that way (points to self).

And the reason they don't like MJ is probably because they think it's a disgusting habit, like smoking. Or because it is a drug. Take a pick. *shrug*

About your situation, you should take care that your girlfriend doesn't get too controlling of you. Of course you need to work for your relationship, but don't become her guilt slave. You know best how much is too much.

Sorry to hear how that turned out OddOneOut, it's never cool when that happens to you (points to self again) but at least you came out of it a stronger person... Be positive, it always helps.

Best regards

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