Dear UG Ladies - Advice for the Romantically Hopeless

can i join? lol

Just joking---I'm a guy, so i don't think i would fit in too much here. lol

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any tips for a guy who cant initiate conversation with girls at all
any tips or advice is appreciated, thanks

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thanks for any help you can give

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anything happen. this week we havent really talked about it, she is still friendly to me though.

Now im not even sure what i want at this point, college will bring many opportunities but a relationship is really attractive to me, and she seems like someone i could really like. but my question is about her... i honestly cant tell whether she is genuinely afraid of committment ect, or whether she is messing with me/rejecting me nicely. girls minds confuse me... especially hers

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hey, so ive been pretty good friends with this girl for a little over a year, and a few weeks ago we hooked up twice at parties (drunk both times). afterwards we both pretty much laughed about it, and agreed that it was fun. in talking about it later, i said that maybe we shouldn't let it happen again, because i thought i might become attached (true). she then told me that she already had some feelings for me. a week or so passed and the possibility of a relationship came up in conversation, and she said she was concerned about me going to college (in a month), even though im staying in town... and shes afraid because she was really hurt by her last breakup, which was her first. she also said she doesnt want to hurt her friend who is madly in love with me (annoying as hell). last weekend at a party i was real drunk and she sober, and i told her i had feelings for her (not really true, i think i just wanted her to kiss me). she basically rejected me that night, we flirted a lot but she didnt let anythin

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Hey, um... any suggestions for raising one's self-confidence?

Thanks. :\

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The kitchen...


It's that way.

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I am in a bit of a dilemma here. My ex girlfriend likes me alot and she keeps flirting with me. One side of me loves the flirting but the other side possibly my practical side thinks its not good and its all in the past. My friends hate her too, so if I went out with her they'd stop talking to me. Should I tell her to stop flirting now or should I avoid flirting with her for a few days and than tell her stop flirting so it won't be awkward. I am very confused here. Thank you for your help.

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Well this is about a friend but i figured this was still the best place to post it

Shes still mad at me, she had a fight with me (i really had no part in it, it was actually all her..) but thats not the important part. After she apologized, shes still mad! Shes avoiding me and the only times she will talk she turns everything into a fight...

First: Why would she assume that iv stuck by her for almost 2 years now and id suddenly just throw away everything to make her feel bad?
Second: How is she still mad!! Its been almost a week since the 'fight'

She frustrates the hell out of me sometimes but i really do love her...

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Ok so I posted this in the relationship thread, but seem to do better off posting here, anyways.

I was dating this girl I really like, but last week I was asking her about going out again sometime, and she said "well I like you and stuff, I just like, dont want a boyfriend at the moment:S" (this was over msn, big mistake I know, but I wasnt really asking her out, I was just kinda playing around with the idea) and Im pretty sure there is/was another guy, so I dont know what to think.

But I dont know how to take "well I like you and stuff", like should I take this as she was trying to let me off easy? But I know she has problems in her life so I'm thinking that could be the reason why, what do you think?

And I still really like her, I think im going ot give it about a month and see if she feels the same then, or do you guys think I should just get over it and move on?

Thanks

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rizo299 has been sent a response!
Good luck with your final decision!
and as always,
~Peace, AlchJabu

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She wasn't just a scarecrow enthusiast, she was some sort of scarecrow fetishist.

She looked slightly offended that I'd taken off my blindfold. Where as I imagine I just looked completely shocked and confused, although certain things seemed to make a lot more sense. I made some excuses and left pretty quickly.

My question is, what should I do? Should I have stayed and just gone along with what ever freaky stuff she was planning and avoided offending her? Should I apologise or demand an answer or what?

I know this sounds absolutely ludicrous but people warned me she was weird, I just had no idea how weird I suppose.

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And it just after my seeing that, that she walked in. Stark naked, bar a bonnet with a blue ribbon on it, an old fashioned neck scarf and a thick layer of make-up that made her face pale white, but with rosey red cheeks and scarlet lipstick. Like a doll.

And that's when it hit me. She was made up like Aunt sally from Worzel Gummage.

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Her entire room, from top to bottom was covered in scarecrows. The walls and ceiling were covered in newspaper cuttings, magazine clippings and posters of scarecrows. One entire wall was covered in pictures that she'd taken of scarecrows from apparently all around the country. Her bed had Wizard of covers, and every flat surface was covered in figurines of scarecrows. She had a calendar, that she had seemingly made herself, that had a picture of a different scarecrow each month. I noticed a big circle on that days date, the words "TURNIP HEAD" were written in it.

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This is where you see why all the detail was necessary.

I heard her leave the room and say she'd be back in a minute and to hold tight and not peep. Frankly, I'm a guy alone in my hot girlfriends room, late at night, while her parents are away, awaiting a surprise. I though this was my lucky day. I couldn't help but peek.

And that's when I saw it.

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So I did what any man would do in that situation, I called her aunt sally. That seemed to placate her. So I left it at that and sincerely hoped that I'd never have to do that again.

A week or so passed and I ended around her house watching The Wizard of Oz while cuddling up with her. I brought the hat she bought me which she thought was very sweet, and she made jam on toast which was frankly, the best thing I've ever tasted. The film finished and she told me she had a surprise for me. She led me up stairs and blind folded me before leading me into her room and sitting me on the bed.

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Which was delightfully quirky, if unorthodox.

Fast forward a month or so and we're going out, every thing's fantastic and going pretty damn smoothly for a relationship involving me. When she talks about me to her friends she calls me "turnip head" and says " He's great, but if only he had a brain!" which they all find fantastically funny and brilliant and original. I don't really get it, but whatever life's great.

The first sign that something odd was going on was in the bedroom. My bedroom to be specific. We'd been together for a month or so and we felt it was time to get a little more intimate. I wont get into to many details, but suffice to say that at some point mid-coitus she whispered "call me aunt sally" into my ear. I chuckled because she's a joker and I knew she'd try something funny. Suddenly she looked quite hurt, and I realised she was entirely serious. She told me to say it again, but this time she said it in quite a frightening voice. So I did what any man would do in that situation, I called

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This is a serious question, but it needs quite a bit of background so sorry if it's a bit long.

I met a girl a few months ago at friends party, we hit it off really well pretty much straight away. We spent most of the night talking about our favourite shows when we were kids, music and films and stuff people said we were boring but we just sat there talking. It was absolutely fantastic, we talked for hours about how much we loved Worzel Gummage when we were kids, and how we though that Daydream Anonymous was easily the best album last year, and she talked about how much she loves the Wizard of Oz and we talked about how you can play the dark side of the moon along side it. It was great.

We met up fairly frequently after that and thing's sped up pretty quickly, her birthday came around and I got her a limited edition version of The Wizard of Oz and copy of The Dark Side of the Moon on vinyl. She thought that was brilliant, and for my birthday she got me a straw hat. Which was delightfully quirky, if unorth

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Best wishes!
AlchJabu

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