UG's Nervous Shitbags

anyone feel free to ask your own questions once this has been answered....

last time there was a girl that i liked, but everything turned to shit, but now...
now theres two different girls that i like & they also like me... but i dont know which one i prefer, any help on deciding??

Posted: Mar 10, 2008 6:46 PM - Quote - Report!

congladurations on making the whole population of this group feel bad! 
 
Anywayz... 
 
You haven't told us enough about the girls, describe both of there looks and personalitys. 
 
Or give us pics

Posted: Mar 10, 2008 7:22 PM - Quote - Report!

well, i dont have any pics, but they're both beautiful, although i think girl#1 is a larl bit more of a babe lol 
but i think i have a little bit more in common with girl#2

Posted: Mar 10, 2008 8:08 PM - Quote - Report!

screw it all, im gonna go with girl#1 for a while & if it doesnt work out, hopefully girl#2 will still be interested (i sound like such a man-whore!) 
 
other nervous shitbags..... tell us random relationship stuffs we may or may not be able to help with!! =D

Posted: Mar 12, 2008 12:09 AM - Quote - Report!

Well, I really need a girlfriend but I don't know any girls(that would go out with me)and hate meeting new people. Help plox?

Posted: Mar 12, 2008 5:49 PM - Quote - Report!

well do you like, go into town or wherever on weekends & things with mates?? 
 
if so, honestly start talking to people you don't actually know, it'd help if there wasnt many of them! 
 
ive done it before & im actually stopping at one of my mates house & one of the people i met randomly talking to strangers is gonna be there... ive been txting her a bit & things could get messy...

Posted: Mar 14, 2008 10:41 PM - Quote - Report!

any more problems??

Posted: Mar 18, 2008 7:10 PM - Quote - Report!

....Oh yes, pick me sir, pick me! 
 
 
Yah...I pretty much am confused as hell at the moment. I think I still like this girl (hell, I still do, and a helluva lot) but since going through another long spell of feeling down I am starting to question whether its the girl I like or just what she and a relationship with her symbolises - stability and happiness, compensating for my pretty much constant instability and long periods of feeling really empty...what's your opinion Joey?

Posted: Mar 21, 2008 2:51 AM - Quote - Report!

well, err.... yes.... i dunno!! <img src="http://groups.ultimate-guitar.com/i/smilies/c onfused.gif"> i think i know what you're saying.... i sorta sometimes think the same thing, but now im bored of everything & im just gonna go with the flow & maybe have a couple fling things for a little while! try it, might help with something... <img src="http://groups.ultimate-guitar.com/i/smilies/b iggrin.gif">

Posted: Mar 22, 2008 10:11 PM - Quote - Report!

hazzmatazz

Ok, I think I'm invisible to girls. Any advice?

Posted: Mar 26, 2008 9:57 PM - Quote - Report!

_-Joey-_ wrote on Mar 22nd, 2008 at 5:11pm :
well, err.... yes.... i dunno!! i think i know what you're saying....i sorta sometimes think the same thing, but now im bored of everything & im just gonna go with the flow & maybe have a couple fling things for a little while! try it, might help with something...

Haha, thanks dude, sounds good to me! <img src="http://groups.ultimate-guitar.com/i/smilies/h aha.gif">

hazzmatazz wrote on Mar 26th, 2008 at 4:57pm :
Ok, I think I'm invisible to girls. Any advice?

Just "make yourself noticeable" Walk tall, shoulders back, look everyone in the eye, and if you see a girl you like who's nice and on the shy side, flash a smile at them. Its just about conveying confidence, but whilst still projecting "likeability" i.e. friendliness to girls. Girls tend to like guys with confidence who are friendly and not over-confident arrogant pricks <img src="http://groups.ultimate-guitar.com/i/smilies/w ink.gif"> Just do what I do, which is whilst not feeling inwardly confident or laid-back you just pretend you are - basically improvise, make it up as you go along so you find something thats natural to you. Hope that helps if you can make any sense of it <img src="http://groups.ultimate-guitar.com/i/smilies/t ongue.gif">

Haha, thanks dude, sounds good to me! <img src="http://groups.ultimate-guitar.com/i/smilies/h aha.gif">

hazzmatazz wrote on Mar 26th, 2008 at 4:57pm :
Ok, I think I'm invisible to girls. Any advice?

Posted: Mar 26, 2008 10:18 PM - Quote - Report!

hazzmatazz

Thanks man

Its going to be difficult as I'm short but I'll try. Yeah I see what you mean, I usually look down at the floor with my hair in my face so I'll lift it up now

AND I get my braces off in a week, smiley

Thanks man

Its going to be difficult as I'm short but I'll try. Yeah I see what you mean, I usually look down at the floor with my hair in my face so I'll lift it up now

AND I get my braces off in a week, smiley

Posted: Mar 26, 2008 10:43 PM - Quote - Report!

I'll tell you a funny, kinda relavent story. 
 
I kind of like this girl at school, and she was walking past and I wanted her to notice me. Being me, I panicked and couldn't think of anything. She went to walk into a room and I yelled "DON'T GO IN THERE! THERES TIGERS!" Safe to say I fucking regret that. She jut looked at me with pity. Didn't even laugh. 
 
True story, sadly.

Posted: Mar 27, 2008 9:07 PM - Quote - Report!

mr freezy wrote on Mar 27th, 2008 at 4:07pm :
I'll tell you a funny, kinda relavent story. 
 
I kind of like this girl at school, and she was walking past and I wanted her to notice me. Being me, I panicked and couldn't think of anything. She went to walk into a room and I yelled "DON'T GO IN THERE! THERES TIGERS!" Safe to say I fucking regret that. She jut looked at me with pity. Didn't even laugh. 
 
True story, sadly.

LMAO sorry, but that sounds like something i'd say, but most the people i know would of laughed, or some close friends of mine might go "AARRGGHH!!!!!" & run away! 
 
but i think from now on when i want a girl to notice me, im just gonna go start talking to them, even if i havnt before!! im gonna try anyway 
i think you should try to

Posted: Mar 28, 2008 9:25 PM - Quote - Report!

_-Joey-_ wrote on Mar 28th, 2008 at 4:25pm :
mr freezy wrote on Mar 27th, 2008 at 4:07pm :
I'll tell you a funny, kinda relavent story. I kind of like this girl at school, and she was walking past and I wanted her to notice me. Being me, I panicked and couldn't think of anything. She went to walk into a room and I yelled "DON'T GO IN THERE! THERES TIGERS!" Safe to say I fucking regret that. She jut looked at me with pity. Didn't even laugh. True story, sadly.
 LMAO sorry, but that sounds like something i'd say, but most the people i know would of laughed, or some close friends of mine might go "AARRGGHH!!!!!" & run away! but i think from now on when i want a girl to notice me, im just gonna go start talking to them, even if i havnt before!! im gonna try anyway i think you should try to

Ima reasurch, see if she's interested first, to save myself the trouble if she isn't. I've only ever asked 1 girl out ever. Which means I have a 100% sucess rate! YAY!

Posted: Apr 9, 2008 8:01 PM - Quote - Report!

Hm, I'm a girl, and I'm not gay, so I can't really say I have girl issues, haha. 
 
But I would have thought the tigers thing was really funny. Even if I didn't, I would have acknowledged it and had a little respect for a different type of sense of humor, not to mention the nervous guts it took to do that. 
 
But you could always try the classic, "Hey" *smile smile*.."

Posted: Apr 11, 2008 12:35 AM - Quote - Report!

My chance of getting a GF has increased significantly because I've became good friends with the best friend of the girl I like. She MAY be interested. Oh lawd this has cheered me up! Or maybe I still got marajuana in my bloodstream.

Posted: Apr 13, 2008 6:02 PM - Quote - Report!

That's good man, I remember you bein a bit down over something a couple of months ago (from the relationship thread) so it's good to see you're largely over it.

Posted: Apr 14, 2008 4:41 PM - Quote - Report!

Yeah, my ex fucked me up pretty bad, but I've moved on now. Anywayz, I still can't talk to the girl I like, my mind just goes blank when I'm around her, and I just kind of laugh nervously. Halp?

Posted: Apr 14, 2008 6:36 PM - Quote - Report!

soz cant help mr freezy, i suck too (exact same thing...u know its all like "Hey, hows it going?" *blank*") 
 
i dont know what it is with me (and my freinds), i DO walk tall and make eye contact, its easy cause im one of the bigger guys in year 9 (ive got medium length blonde hair, bit taller than average, broad shoulders, pretty strong looking (not trying to brag or anything)) 
But still no GF! I make sure im neat, you know good looking but still no f*cking GF! 
My freinds don't have one either (though they are completely different, their ALL very short, one has really long hair) but i think we all deserve one, instead its the friggin other guys who get the attention WTF!?! (ill get one of those freinds into this group, he would love to talk about it : "Sabotage1") 
We have deep interest in the 4 nice looking girls in our class (they don't seem to be bitchs, cause u know that is always a concern /looks isn't everything) but i cant tell how they feel or how 2 get their attention. Help?

Posted: Apr 15, 2008 5:09 AM - Quote - Report!

It's always the nice looking girls people want. Maybe you should check out the "meh" group. People who aren't smokin hot also have personalities.

Posted: Apr 16, 2008 5:02 PM - Quote - Report!

^Thats my kind of group!

All the girls that most people would consider "hot" really don't appeal to me, because most of them are complete bitches. I prefer shy girls, I don't know why.

^Thats my kind of group!

All the girls that most people would consider "hot" really don't appeal to me, because most of them are complete bitches. I prefer shy girls, I don't know why.

Posted: Apr 16, 2008 5:05 PM - Quote - Report!

i didn't mean to imply superficialness (if thats a word) thats why i wrote looks isn't everything, not that im offended or anything... 
 
And things are starting to look up, a bit anyway. One of them keeps standing right next to me, pressing against me...literally 
im gonna try talk to her more......giggity giggity giggity giggity giggity

(im not saying she likes me but things are looking good anyway)

Posted: Apr 17, 2008 8:33 AM - Quote - Report!

Violet Addler wrote on Apr 10th, 2008 at 7:35pm :
 
But you could always try the classic, "Hey" *smile smile*.."

I do that too much...

Violet Addler wrote on Apr 10th, 2008 at 7:35pm :
 
But you could always try the classic, "Hey" *smile smile*.."

I do that too much...

Posted: Apr 18, 2008 4:32 PM - Quote - Report!

mr freezy wrote on Apr 16th, 2008 at 12:05pm :
^Thats my kind of group! 
 
All the girls that most people would consider "hot" really don't appeal to me, because most of them are complete bitches. I prefer shy girls, I don't know why.

thats just like me, i never like the supposidly really hot girls, cos they're all complete bitches & i dont actually like the look of them either 
i like the more..... moshery-girl lol 
but where i live theres like ONE!!! 
& i already blew it with her =/

Posted: Apr 19, 2008 12:22 PM - Quote - Report!

If I was a girl, you'd totally go for me..... 
>.> 
<.<

_-Joey-_ wrote on Apr 19th, 2008 at 7:22am :
 
thats just like me, i never like the supposidly really hot girls, cos they're all complete bitches & i dont actually like the look of them either 
i like the more..... moshery-girl lol 
but where i live theres like ONE!!! 
& i already blew it with her =/

I totally agree, most 'hot' girls aren't 'hot' because they think they're 'hot.' and to be Frank, it makes me sick :\

If I was a girl, you'd totally go for me..... 
>.> 
<.<

I totally agree, most 'hot' girls aren't 'hot' because they think they're 'hot.' and to be Frank, it makes me sick :\

Posted: Apr 19, 2008 7:42 PM - Quote - Report!

I'm gunna ask this girl next time I have contact with her. Whats the worst that can happen?

Posted: Apr 19, 2008 8:12 PM - Quote - Report!

Ask her what man?

Posted: Apr 19, 2008 11:42 PM - Quote - Report!

Ask her on a date!

Posted: Apr 20, 2008 1:16 PM - Quote - Report!

mr freezy wrote on Apr 20th, 2008 at 8:16am :
Ask her on a date!

This group achieved something? 
hell yeah! 
Go Mr Freezy!

mr freezy wrote on Apr 20th, 2008 at 8:16am :
Ask her on a date!

This group achieved something? 
hell yeah! 
Go Mr Freezy!

Posted: Apr 20, 2008 4:19 PM - Quote - Report!

YAY FOR A DATE!!! 
 
Even if she says no, CONGRATUALATIONS!!! Because that takes balls

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 8:54 AM - Quote - Report!

YAY for everyone!! XD 
....but especially Mr Freezy! =D

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 12:01 PM - Quote - Report!

Dammit, I missed my first chance! I was hyping myself up to go over, and by the time I gained the courage she had fucked off! So now I'm reduced to doing it over msn! At least I learned my lesson, you got to take your chances while they're there.

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 6:02 PM - Quote - Report!

Wait!!! Don't do it over msn man! Just don't!

The opportunity will come...don't go about trying to make the opportuinity arrive, it will come

Wait!!! Don't do it over msn man! Just don't!

The opportunity will come...don't go about trying to make the opportuinity arrive, it will come

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 6:36 PM - Quote - Report!

yeah, whatever you do, do not make your first chance over msn!! 
its MUCH better in person!

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 7:21 PM - Quote - Report!

bloodchair wrote on Apr 21st, 2008 at 3:54am :
YAY FOR A DATE!!! 
 
Even if she says no, CONGRATUALATIONS!!! Because that takes balls

Exactly

bloodchair wrote on Apr 21st, 2008 at 3:54am :
YAY FOR A DATE!!! 
 
Even if she says no, CONGRATUALATIONS!!! Because that takes balls

Exactly

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 7:33 PM - Quote - Report!

ECwomantoneman wrote on Apr 21st, 2008 at 1:36pm :
Wait!!! Don't do it over msn man! Just don't! The opportunity will come...don't go about trying to make the opportuinity arrive, it will come

Thanks for the advice. Tomoro it is then!

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 8:02 PM - Quote - Report!

Sorry, I decided against your advice because I couldn't wait. She said no.

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 8:12 PM - Quote - Report!

^^Ach really gutted man

Don't worry too much bout it. Maybe it didn't work out right now, but there is the future to consider.

For the moment just try and put her out of your head and move on.

^^Ach really gutted man

Don't worry too much bout it. Maybe it didn't work out right now, but there is the future to consider.

For the moment just try and put her out of your head and move on.

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 8:54 PM - Quote - Report!

mr freezy wrote on Apr 21st, 2008 at 3:12pm :
Sorry, I decided against your advice because I couldn't wait. She said no.

that funny thing is you posted that only about 10 minutes after saying you wouldnt! lol 
but still, do what feels best, even if you have to suffer a bit, it should hopefully work out in the end

mr freezy wrote on Apr 21st, 2008 at 3:12pm :
Sorry, I decided against your advice because I couldn't wait. She said no.

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 9:26 PM - Quote - Report!

Yeah I'll add on a bit more for the benefit of Mr Ki...Mr Freezy

: (kudos to whoever gets the reference

) 
 
Sometimes, with girls anyway, I like to think of the whole "thing" as being a folder icon on your computer desktop - when I want to get rid of the thought of her I mentally see this folder being put into the recycle bin, where it will be out of sight although not gone forever, its just out of the way and can be retrieved in future. Does that make any sense? I'll try and explain it again as it is a good mental metaphor to have

Yeah I'll add on a bit more for the benefit of Mr Ki...Mr Freezy

: (kudos to whoever gets the reference

Posted: Apr 21, 2008 10:12 PM - Quote - Report!

mr freezy is business man, and allways has a back-up plan. 
 
I will start work on it next week.

Posted: Apr 22, 2008 5:48 PM - Quote - Report!

Exactly. 
It just seems like so many people go for the "hot" look, and we all end up looking the same...blond hair, tight jeans, and stupid sounding voices (am I the only one who notices the annoying voices?).

Posted: Apr 22, 2008 7:33 PM - Quote - Report!

Violet Addler wrote on Apr 22nd, 2008 at 2:33pm :
 
 
Exactly. 
It just seems like so many people go for the "hot" look, and we all end up looking the same...blond hair, tight jeans, and stupid sounding voices (am I the only one who notices the annoying voices?).

yeah, a lot of the "hot" girls i know have exceedingly annoying voices!

ECwomantoneman wrote on Apr 21st, 2008 at 5:12pm :
 
 
Sometimes, with girls anyway, I like to think of the whole "thing" as being a folder icon on your computer desktop - when I want to get rid of the thought of her I mentally see this folder being put into the recycle bin, where it will be out of sight although not gone forever, its just out of the way and can be retrieved in future. Does that make any sense? I'll try and explain it again as it is a good mental metaphor to have

that sounds sooooooo sad! lol 
but if it works, i may try it!

yeah, a lot of the "hot" girls i know have exceedingly annoying voices!

that sounds sooooooo sad! lol 
but if it works, i may try it!

Posted: Apr 22, 2008 10:59 PM - Quote - Report!

mmmmm....such a big thread, takes me like 4 seconds to scroll through it all

and not all hot girls have annoying voices, but some do. You know like some are really...ummm...ahhhh, hang on...here comes description 
 
YOu know those like really 'bouncy, springy' girls you sometimes see on TV, that look like they have so much energy they could jump 10 meters (they mustn't do anything all day!) And they're all cutsie and have got that high, *fairyland*, springy voice thats all like.......well you know...annoying..... incredibly annoying 
 
(hope someone understood that...[i][biting lips])[/i]

mmmmm....such a big thread, takes me like 4 seconds to scroll through it all

Posted: Apr 23, 2008 8:07 AM - Quote - Report!

Violet Addler wrote on Apr 22nd, 2008 at 2:33pm :
mr freezy wrote on Apr 16th, 2008 at 12:05pm :
^Thats my kind of group! All the girls that most people would consider "hot" really don't appeal to me, because most of them are complete bitches. I prefer shy girls, I don't know why.
 Exactly. It just seems like so many people go for the "hot" look, and we all end up looking the same...blond hair, tight jeans, and stupid sounding voices (am I the only one who notices the annoying voices?).

Quiet pale girls with black hair are the best. (IMO)

Posted: Apr 23, 2008 5:35 PM - Quote - Report!

_-Joey-_ wrote on Apr 22nd, 2008 at 5:59pm :
 
that sounds sooooooo sad! lol 
but if it works, i may try it!

Yeah it is a depressing solution to a sad situation, but hey, when you're feelin like that you're willing to try pretty much anything

_-Joey-_ wrote on Apr 22nd, 2008 at 5:59pm :
 
that sounds sooooooo sad! lol 
but if it works, i may try it!

Yeah it is a depressing solution to a sad situation, but hey, when you're feelin like that you're willing to try pretty much anything

Posted: Apr 23, 2008 7:10 PM - Quote - Report!

Bloodchair, that's pretty much what I meant. We are on the same page. 
And shit, am I the only girl in this thread?

Posted: Apr 23, 2008 8:16 PM - Quote - Report!

Violet Addler wrote on Apr 23rd, 2008 at 3:16pm :
Bloodchair, that's pretty much what I meant. We are on the same page. 
And shit, am I the only girl in this thread?

I possibly think you're the only girl in this group. 
I never imagine girls being nervous, I apologise for the sexism in this sentence, but I don't know what it is. 
In my head, girls are always out there, but us men (minus you

) are either super confident, or, well like me.

Violet Addler wrote on Apr 23rd, 2008 at 3:16pm :
Bloodchair, that's pretty much what I meant. We are on the same page. 
And shit, am I the only girl in this thread?

) are either super confident, or, well like me.

Posted: Apr 24, 2008 10:44 PM - Quote - Report!

^Yeah, I'm pretty sure I am too. 
But I think it's pretty much the same with girls. We like to pretend we are okay, never nervous, all of that. But I just don't see why. I mean, I'd rather just be honest with myself, and be a nervous shitbag, than pretend not to be one and never deal with it. With girls, most of them seem "confident" but they rarely are. It's pretty much an act.

Posted: Apr 25, 2008 3:59 PM - Quote - Report!

Violet Addler wrote on Apr 25th, 2008 at 10:59am :
^Yeah, I'm pretty sure I am too. But I think it's pretty much the same with girls. We like to pretend we are okay, never nervous, all of that. But I just don't see why. I mean, I'd rather just be honest with myself, and be a nervous shitbag, than pretend not to be one and never deal with it. With girls, most of them seem "confident" but they rarely are. It's pretty much an act.

well thank you for that insight

I'll keep that in mind. Well that's what this group is for, putting our shitbagginess (sp? word?) out in to the open. EDIT: oooh 50 posts

well thank you for that insight

I'll keep that in mind. Well that's what this group is for, putting our shitbagginess (sp? word?) out in to the open. EDIT: oooh 50 posts

Posted: Apr 27, 2008 3:33 PM - Quote - Report!

^Do keep it in mind man. Girls do some shitty shit to people. Not that guys don't, they do too. It's mostly human beings in general I guess. If you guys want to know what girls are thinking, ask the only girl in this group: me.

Posted: Apr 28, 2008 3:22 AM - Quote - Report!

Ok then, it seems girls can all do better than me. My ex left me for another guy, the girl I asked liked someone else and so does the other girl who I was gunna ask. What the fuck is wrong with me?

Posted: Apr 28, 2008 6:16 PM - Quote - Report!

mr freezy wrote on Apr 28th, 2008 at 1:16pm :
Ok then, it seems girls can all do better than me. My ex left me for another guy, the girl I asked liked someone else and so does the other girl who I was gunna ask. What the fuck is wrong with me?

More like what's wrong with them?

Posted: Apr 28, 2008 7:15 PM - Quote - Report!

joeymaxx wrote on Apr 28th, 2008 at 2:15pm :
More like what's wrong with them?

Agreed. Whilst you shouldn't ever allow yourself to sink into the mentality of "it's everyone else's fault, nothing to do with me", in this case it is indeed their fault, and was pretty much outwith your control. You just gotta pick yourself up and move on

joeymaxx wrote on Apr 28th, 2008 at 2:15pm :
More like what's wrong with them?

Posted: Apr 29, 2008 7:28 PM - Quote - Report!

Well, girl opinion: If you were good to the girl that left you, and you had great communication, then it's totally not your fault. Even if things were getting shitty, she could have said something and tried to work it out with you before she "moved on." The other two may have been involved with other people at the time. It sounds like eveyone elses problem, not yours. 
 
There's nothing wrong with you, man. Just keep trucking. Can't believe I just said that.

Posted: Apr 29, 2008 10:09 PM - Quote - Report!